This post really, really, really, really resonated with me. In fact, I loved it so much I read it twice. But it took me a really long time because I kept pausing after like every other sentence to be like YEAH and think about how much I agree with it and then have a bunch of spinoff thoughts. Needless/excessive/self-destructive charitability is SUCH a common pitfall for me. So common that like sometimes I don’t even know that I’m doing it and end up feeling terrible after an interaction and having no idea why and concluding that it’s like somehow my fault for being socially anxious or weird or something. But like you’re so right that you can still be open and understanding most of the time without also subjecting yourself to shit that makes you feel like garbage in the name of being charitable.
Hi Pearl, I'm so so so glad this resonated, and in turn, I very much resonated with your comment :) Yeah damn this is a vicious cycle and easy to fall into, we should def discuss this more at some point!!! <3
This post really, really, really, really resonated with me. In fact, I loved it so much I read it twice. But it took me a really long time because I kept pausing after like every other sentence to be like YEAH and think about how much I agree with it and then have a bunch of spinoff thoughts. Needless/excessive/self-destructive charitability is SUCH a common pitfall for me. So common that like sometimes I don’t even know that I’m doing it and end up feeling terrible after an interaction and having no idea why and concluding that it’s like somehow my fault for being socially anxious or weird or something. But like you’re so right that you can still be open and understanding most of the time without also subjecting yourself to shit that makes you feel like garbage in the name of being charitable.
Hi Pearl, I'm so so so glad this resonated, and in turn, I very much resonated with your comment :) Yeah damn this is a vicious cycle and easy to fall into, we should def discuss this more at some point!!! <3